God's Blueprint For Commitment
Pastor David L. Brown, Ph.D.
Psalms 127:1 Except the LORD build the house, they
labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh
but in vain.
Hillary Clinton tells us, "It takes a village to raise a
child." She goes on to stress that the Government needs to assume a broader
roll in rearing children in our culture. That just is not right. Allow me to
offer this quote --
"Governments can't raise children--people do, and
the people that bring children into this world should all bear
responsibility for raising them."
Do you know who made that statement? President Bill Clinton.
Though I seldom agree on family matters with President Clinton, I do agree with
him on this quote, because it lines up with the Bible’s teaching on child
rearing. The parents, both parents, are responsible for rearing that child. What
it takes to raise a child is a dad and a mom working together under the
direction of the Lord!
Our nation is in trouble! One primary reason is because
Americans have moved away from the biblical model of the family. Increasingly
mothers are off working and dads are absent or playing hooky. Just where does
that leave the kids? Who is training the kids? We should not have to be reminded
that the family is the foundational building block of society. The family was
the first institution established by God (Genesis 2:18-25; 1:27-28). For
years no credible person would deny that. Politicians, whether republican or
democrat, affirmed the importance of the family. And, they defined the family
biblically (i.e. a male father, female mother united in the bond of marriage,
procreating and rearing children). Let me offer an example. A number of years
back Hubert Humphrey said in his address to the Smithsonian Institution --
"You begin with the family, which is the basic social
institution of all civilization, and of all humanity…the family unit is as
vital today as it was 200, 500, 1000, yea, 10,000 years ago. And I don't care
how many TV sets or how many fast cars you have, or how many theaters, or how
many museums, or how many cultural institutions you have… unless you have the
will to make the family unit an operating institution of love and understanding,
of education and communication, of fellowship and sharing, then all of this is
for naught… Those of us who recognize this importance accept the
responsibility for taking the steps that are necessary to preserve the family's
moral foundation. And, we have no time to spare.
Let me ask you a question. Are you willing to accept the
responsibility for taking the steps that are necessary to preserve the family's
moral foundation?
STEPS NECESSARY TO PRESERVE THE FAMILY
The husband is the head of the wife and charged to rule his
own house well (Eph. 5:23; 1 Tim 3:4), I am going to emphasize the role
of the husband/father. But, the wife/mother has the same responsibility as well.
My focus is going to be on commitment. You cannot have a strong family
without commitment. Commitment is necessary to preserve the family.
Commit comes from the Latin word which means to bind
together. When I think of commitment I think of a rope and Ecclesiastes
4:12 which says in part, "a threefold cord is not quickly
broken."
I want to use the three fold cord to illustrate
three essential commitments within the family.
- Commitment To Christ And The Will of God
Since it is God who instituted the family, it is only
reasonable that He has a central part in family life. Commitment to God begins
with Salvation. Three Bible passages need to be pointed out here –
Ephesians 2:8-9; Romans 10:9-13; Ephesians 1:12-13
When we commit ourselves to Christ, Christ commits himself to
us. 2 Timothy 1:12 For the which cause I also suffer these things:
nevertheless I am not ashamed: for I know whom I have believed, and am persuaded
that he is able to keep that which I have committed unto him against that day.
Not only do we need to commit our souls to Christ in
Salvation, but we also need to commit ourselves to doing the will of God.
Psalms 143:10 Teach me to do thy will; for thou art my God: thy spirit
is good; lead me into the land of uprightness.
A husband and a father who is committed to the Lord Jesus
Christ and to doing the will of God is walking in the light.(1 John 1:7).
This brings great stability into marriage and family life. There is not the
instability and fighting that results in double-mindedness, when the dad (or
mom) vacillates between doing their own thing and doing the will of God (James
1:8; James 4:1-8).
Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good
thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
God created a wife to be a companion, completer, helper and
friend. And once you have chosen the woman for your wife, marriage brings you
into a life time commitment to her. Therefore, the second strand in the three
fold cord of commitment is permanent commitment to your wife.
Have you ever really studied Matthew 19:3-10? Most of
us are familiar with Matthew 19:6b What therefore God hath joined
together, let not man put asunder. But Christ hits the "marital
commitment" issue head on and tells it like it is. Let’s look at this
passage (read the passage). We are talking permanent commitment here.
I want to emphasize the disciples' conclusion in verse 10 --
"His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife,
it is not good to marry." The point is, marriage is a lifetime
commitment (Romans 7:2-3)! Now, when I speak of commitment I am not
referring to some form of passive past commitment that was based on hormones and
emotions. Rather, I am referring to the daily exercise of 1 Corinthians 13
love. I am referring to taking the time to get to know your wife and communicate
with her (1 Peter 3:7-10). I am talking about building the kind of a
relationship together so that you enjoy being together and that after years of
marriage you are still ravished with her love (Proverbs 5:18-21).
This kind of relationship requires personal effort and
investing time.
- Commitment To Your Children
The final strand in the three fold cord is a commitment to
your children. Look at Ephesians 6:4. Notice what the father is charged
with in the context of child rearing. That is no accident! Fathers are to be
active in the rearing of their children. Ephesians 6:4 And, ye
fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture
and admonition of the Lord.
One of the things that your wife needs the most, if there are
children still at home, is your consistent involvement in the instruction and
discipline of those children. The Book of Proverbs is filled with a father's
instruction to his children. I was at my son's home just last night for a
"father's day meal." When we were done I helped him replace a water
pump on his car. As we were working together, he looked at me and said,
"thanks dad, for teaching me how to use tools and do things like this. You
have saved me literally hundreds of dollars." I can tell you, those words
were a blessing to me!
Men and women, our nation and our churches desperately need
strong families. One key aspect of developing a strong family is COMMITMENT
–
- Commitment to the Lord & His Will
- Commitment to Your Wife
- Commitment to Your Children
Examine Your Commitments!
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